When life gets tired of waiting.

Rear view mirror

Self employment has no guarantees, and yet when you are blind sided or come up upon obstacles, there is a part of you that gets angry and shouts out, “WTF!?”

I am currently focusing on getting volume two of Creatives’ Cupboard ready to produce and ship Monday, May 16, 2016. When I started the interviews and research for my theme of tools, I really thought the direction would be all about  the latest app or creative and business software. I was surprised and pleased to find that the reality was when we get down to it, our tools are either physical, like a pen and paper or metaphorical. This has led me to pause and really look at what tools are key for me in my professional creative path – one of those is:

Perspective [per-spek-tiv] The state of one’s ideas, the facts known to one, etc. in having meaningful interrelationship. The faculty of seeing all the relevant data in a meaningful relationship. (Definition from Dictionary.com)

Perspective isn’t a tool that you just pick up. It is a learned skill not just in business but in life as well. As I watch and struggle with my daughters as they are coming into their own, ages 10 and 12, my frustrations can overwhelm me when they get anxious about the ‘little things’ in my mind. It is in those moments, that my ‘perspective’ has me stop and acknowledge they haven’t the ability or skill of perspective until they work through this thing call growing up. It is an actual physical thing, their brain connections start at the base (limbic centre) and eventually need to make their way up to the frontal lobe (intelligent processes). I learned recently that this process doesn’t fully connect until one is in their mid 20’s!

When it comes to working with clients and collaborators, I take notice of how those around me respond to challenges, and successes. Knowing, understanding and respecting where other’s perspective’s lie or stem from help you to manage the situational relationships you have with them. The key in this skill is to actually act on it… something that at times I know I get ‘gun shy’ about standing up for my professional opinion and skill set.

Recently a client parted ways with me. Yeah, it sort of sucked, literally felt like a ‘break-up’. After the initial shock wore off, which is something you can never avoid – it is an emotional reaction simply connected to the limbic brain…  48 hours later and and my brain connections have processed up to my frontal lobe and the logic side of me has kicked in. I now can call myself out, with this perspective, and own up to the fact that this was a working dynamic my gut told me a year ago to address. But I was scared to let go of the consistently scheduled work. It seems that life was tired of waiting for me to pull the trigger, so it happened for me.

So what does that mean now? Time to pivot… and take my own creative business dreams seriously, no one else is going to. You will be seeing updates and actual movement here at Creatives’ Cupboard. My goal and desire is to connect with my fellow creative professionals and become a resource and soft place to land when life tends to push us a little too far.

There are still volumes of the first Creatives’ Cupboard available for purchase, inside are stories and worksheets to help a creative define their business and market it in the right way, and the upcoming second volume as I said, themes around tools for your business are currently available to pre-order and ship May 16, 2016.

Thank you for being part of this community. If you ever have stories to share, just drop me a line.

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4 thoughts on “When life gets tired of waiting.

  1. So true, ms. c. Don’t forget to take time for your own self care – this is loss as real as losing a personal relationship. I didn’t acknowledge that and almost put some close personal people at risk due to emotional ups and downs that I didn’t acknowledge as coming from losing my job. Now seeing a counsellor and getting the talk time I need. 🙂 Hugs!

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